Truths your married friends won’t tell you…

Dear single Muslimah,

I am going to tell you some honest truths today. The truths your married friends won’t tell you. They will share every little detail about their lives with you but not this. And they shouldn’t either. A good Muslimah should guard the secrets of her marital home and not disclose information about her family life and the relationship with her spouse. Hence, your friends won’t tell you about this. Which is alright for them, but it sucks for you.

You enter the beautiful world of marriage without knowing the reality.

You think you know what your married life will be like. You have seen it in the media, you have fantasised about it since you were a little girl, and have briefly glimpsed into other wives’ lives from the outside. You are searching for a pious, religious, and practising brother, and you think that by marrying someone whose’s deen is sorted, you will be sorted for life. Because that’s what the sheikh said at the fiqh of marriage seminar, and some scholar posted on his facebook page. So you believe it. You believe that if a brother is perfect with his salaah and goes to the masjid everyday, attends Islamic seminars regularly, has long beard that puts Santa to shame, you are sorted. He even applied to study at Madina university so he must be really good. He will be your leader in the deen, he will remind you about Allah, he will encourage you to become a better Muslimah and you don’t have to do much except follow him. You believe that marrying a practising brother is the ultimate success when it comes to your deen. And Jannah will be a piece of cake.

Let me present to you a different side.