Sometimes we are sad and upset. There may or may not be a big enough reason. Perhaps, a loved one – could be a parent, sibling, husband or a friend- has upset you and you can’t seem to reconcile. Perhaps there is a personal trial or a difficulty that you are going through and you are not able to share it with your family or your spouse. Your heart is distressed and talking to them or even a hug from a loved one doesn’t make it better. At time like these, where the heart is at unrest, we are recommended to find peace in the remembrance of Allah. Obviously one of the ways of remembering Allah is through the recitation of the Qur’an, BUT that’s not what I am suggesting.
Try something else. Instead of reciting the Qur’an yourself, ask your spouse to recite it for you. Let him select any surah that he wants and you simply listen. Close your eyes and let the words of Allah open your heart. Heal your heart. Know that the exact ayah that your husband chose to recite is the one that Allah decreed at this moment in time. This is what you need.
Let your heart feel that connection with Allah first and foremost and then with your husband. Perhaps, you couldn’t talk to him about something or felt a little mentally disconnected in your marriage. Remember – his voice usually calms you and right now hearing him recite the words of Allah will make all the difference. It will remind you of the mercy that Allah has put between you both. It will bring his love back in your heart. You will once again recall the purpose of marriage. You will remember how the person reciting the Quraan to you at this moment is the one who loves and cares for you. That you both are fulfilling one of the purposes of marriage – worshipping Allah together. As one unit.
Try it. Next time you feel disconnected with your spouse and talking to them hasn’t helped, ask them to recite the words of Allah. Any surah. Any ayah.
May Allah make us the coolness of our spouses’ eyes and unite us together in Jannah. Ameen
Waking up in Jannah 